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M·06 Mind & Body

Say “I'm Excited”, Not “Calm Down”

Reappraising anxiety as excitement improves performance. Trying to calm down does not — it is a much longer distance to travel.

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solidHow strong is the evidence?

Good evidence behind it, but fewer people have checked it independently.

  • Alison Wood Brooks, J. Experimental Psychology: General, 2014 — singing, speaking and maths tasks

Why it works

Anxiety and excitement are the same high-arousal state with different valence. Reinterpreting is easy; downshifting arousal under pressure is nearly impossible.

What to do about it

  • Say it out loud: “I am excited.” Out loud beat thinking it in the study.
  • Use before speaking, pitching, performing or a hard call.
  • Pair it with an opportunity frame: what is there to gain here, rather than what is there to lose.

Where people go wrong

Telling an anxious other person to relax. Tell them it's excitement, or ask them what they're looking forward to.

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