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Habits & Behaviour
Never Miss Twice
One missed day does not measurably damage a habit. Two consecutive misses are how habits die.
- Evidence
- solid
- Topic
- Habits
- Things to do
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- Read
- 1 min
solidHow strong is the evidence?
Good evidence behind it, but fewer people have checked it independently.
- Lally et al., Eur. J. Social Psychology, 2010
- abstinence-violation effect, Marlatt & Gordon, 1985
Why it works
The damage is not the missed day, it is the story about the missed day. “I've broken it, so it's over” turns one lapse into a collapse.
What to do about it
- Make the rule explicit and absolute: miss once, fine; never twice.
- Keep a one-minute version of every habit for bad days — two pages, one set, one sentence. It keeps the chain, and the chain is the point.
- Never track a streak longer than you're willing to lose.
Where people go wrong
Perfectionist streak-keeping. A 200-day streak you're terrified of makes day 201 harder, not easier.
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- Temptation BundlingChain the thing you should do to the thing you want to do, and let the want carry both.solid